I was just watching my kids chatting amongst themselves and laughing when I said, “I hope you all stay friends when you grow up”.
My 10 year old son says, “We’re friends now”.
“Yes, but I hope you stay friends”, I explain.
Looking at me like I’m a confused soul my 10 year old, in a slightly condescending voice, says, “Of course we will, we’re blood relatives.”
Truth be told, if nothing else, I want my children to have a relationship independent of me. I don’t want them to only stay in touch because I want them to. I don’t want them to only see each other at family gatherings.
My parents didn’t really take in interest in the relationship my siblings and I were fostering…or not fostering.
For my children I want it to be different. I always tell them, “don’t fight with your sister and/or brother, they could turn around and be your best ally one day.” I don’t think they quite appreciate what I mean just yet.
With 4 children ranging from 12 years of age to 3 years of age, their biggest dilemma at the moment is who gets the tv at 6pm.
Sometimes my greatest joy isn’t to be involved with them constantly, but to sit back and watch them from a distance.
It’s also a lot quieter from a distance. 😉