Last week my daughter was filling me in on the drama’s that usually accompany 14 year olds at high school. As she was talking to me I could feel myself having a physical reaction. It was like I was revisiting my own high school drama again.
14 year old drama doesn’t seem to have changed much over the years; well so far.
And as I was looking at my daughter I thought to myself “I have a thousand answers for all these dramas and at the same time I have none”.
I can’t tell my daughter how to handle her friendships or even a squabble she’s trying to mediate.
All I can do is offer suggestions and things for her to consider. But I can’t categorically tell her what to do (unless of course I sense real danger; then Mama Bear is going to come out in full force).
These high school dramas may seem well, a little immature, when you’re the parent being filled in. But for the teenager, it’s big stuff.
And it is big stuff because this is the stuff the makes you the adult you eventually become.
It’s all well and good to tell people “not to sweat the small stuff” but usually people who adopt that mantra have indeed sweated the small stuff and found out for themselves what is and is not important.
Mr M wrote on the whiteboard in the kitchen
“It’s OK in the end. If it’s not OK, then it’s not the end”.